Fixer

I'm a fixer. I've always been that way. I think it stems from my mother who would ask me when I was clearly not that sick but trying to get out of something, what it is that we needed to do to fix the situation. "Drink some water, put a cool cloth on your face, you'll feel better." It worked. I'm tough, and I always have been. Life is life, and we have to deal with it.

There are a lot of messed up people out there right now. People are dealing with unemployment, being broke, depression, substance abuse, questioning their future, dealing with unhappiness in their jobs. The list goes on. There are so many things that can bring us down, and reduce our abilities to be stable and feel secure.

There are a few ways I see people dealing with this. Some people are down and bringing those around them down. Some people hole up in their houses and avoid the world at large. Some people throw themselves into negative pursuits, like planned runaways. Some people sit and drink themselves into a stupor. Some people just complain a lot. Some people look to dating and relationships to fix them.

Nobody I know who has a problem right now is actively seeking therapy. So many people need therapy and they refuse, for one reason or another, to get it. If you're an alcoholic, you should go to rehab. There's no longer a stigma attached to going to rehab. Lord knows, celebrities go through it all the time. If you're unhappy in your job, actively look for another job. If you're depressed, talk to someone who is unbiased about it. Life doesn't have to be this hard, and the longer you put off dealing with the things that make you unhappy, the more whatever problem it is that you have will get hold of you.

Some people will call this harsh, but I can't stand seeing those people I love in pain and hurting. I want to fix them. I'm trying to fix the things in my own life that I'm not happy with, I just wish I could fix the people I love.